Emotional intelligence is the ability to analyze and understand the emotions of yourself and others. Emotions are information and should be used as a tool for better navigating your life and regulating relationships with others. One of the prominent pioneers in emotional intelligence is Daniel Goleman. In his book, Emotional Intelligence, he narrates the story of two brains, emotional and rational brains. He emphasizes that emotional intelligence is a more important metric to measure success and happiness than IQ. According to Goleman, there are five main ingredients of emotional intelligence.
Self-awareness: The ability to better understand yourself, strengths, weaknesses, motivations, values, and the impact we have on others. For example, a person who knows she is social and gets motivated working with others choose a career that suits this the best.
Self-regulation: The ability to control and regulate temporary emotional impulses. For example, a manager who observes poor performance from his employee and tries to find the root-cause for the problem instead of shouting at him.
Motivation: The ability to keep motivated with all the obstacles in your way. For example, a soccer coach who gives a warm speech to his players even after his team fails in the first half of the game.
Empathy: The ability to understand the world from the perspective of other people. For example, a university professor who can understand cultural differences between her students and treat them accordingly.
Social skill: The ability to build and regulate your relationship with others. For example, a manager who wants to bring a new idea or change to his team tries to build a relationship with all members of his team. This helps her to understand different perspectives to come up with the best strategy for his goal.